Positive Parenting Tip: The Use and Misuse of Rewards

The Use and Misuse of Rewards The effective use of tangible rewards and social reinforcers can be powerful incentives for shaping children’s behavior. Rewarding desired behavior promotes learning and helps parents focus on what their child does right, instead of reacting to misbehavior. Positive reinforcement can be highly effective in establishing a new pattern of […]

Discover Common Ways to Help Your Children Cope with Grief and Loss

Helping Children Cope with Grief and Loss A child may experience grief and loss due to the death of a family member, close friend, or beloved pet; parental separation or divorce; military deployment of a parent; move from familiar surroundings; diagnosis of a chronic illness; or other life-altering event. Parents often underestimate the impact of […]

Different Discipline Styles for Different Children

Did You Know There are Different Discipline Styles for Different Children? With only a verbal reminder, your nine year-old daughter starts cleaning her room or doing her homework. But when you tell her younger brother to put his toys away or get dressed for school, he ignores your repeated requests and stalls or argues until […]

An Imbalance of Family Power

Many well-intentioned parents over-indulge their children in a misguided attempt to help them feel loved and special. However, daily giving in to children’s whims and wants prevents them from learning to handle frustration and develop self-control, respect, and cooperation. Furthermore, children of pushover parents, who are given too much family power, become anxious, fearful, angry […]

Easy Ways to Get Your Child to Behave – and Want To

On any given day you’ve probably had two or three showdowns with your child over everything from brushing her teeth to getting in the car seat  — all before lunch. But contrary to how things may seem, most kids like to behave in a manner that makes them (and you) proud  — at least most […]

Homework Help

1. Talk to your child’s teacher. Find out the homework policies, including how involved you’re expected to be. That way, you can keep your child on track. 2. Help her get organized. When she has a re-port or other long-term project to do, find out the deadlines for each task she needs to complete along […]

How To Help Each Child Feel Loved

All of us harbor some fantasies about the ways our children will turn out. But they don’t come into this world to fulfill a script we’ve already chosen for them. Fostering a unique sense of self in each of our children involves what I call learning to honor the person in every child  — that is, […]

Is My Child Gifted?

Ahead of the Curve Q. I’m sure most parents think their babies are bright, but I am convinced that our 22-month-old is truly gifted. She already identifies colors, counts to ten, recognizes letters, and speaks in full sentences. Books are her favorite toys, and she knows many of them by heart. Should I have her […]

Little Kids, Big Mouths

The labor of love called parenting can be difficult  — even when your child is compliant and adoring. But when your simple requests or innocent remarks are met with sassy retorts, sullen silences, even eye rolling or shoulder shrugging, you can feel angry and discouraged or find yourself caught up in an argument neither of you […]

No More Discipline Traps

When it comes to discipline, most of us, despite our best intentions, get into ruts. When our kids misbehave, we tend to rely on the same one or two techniques, even if they’re not the most appropriate or effective methods. Which is why the process of teaching self-control to their children can often leave the […]